Being a Woman

Being a woman means being able to love endlessly and expect nothing in return. It means you gotta be strong, ready to shoulder your woes and that of your loved ones.Its about being able to derive the same strength from the love of your family (whether they express affection or not doesn't matter, she should just know that they love her). A woman cannot ever break down, coz the entire family banks on her to be there with a sane head when the goings get rough. It doesn't matter whether she holds a job or is a full time parent/wife, her physical and mental stamina should amaze even the super-heroes. As a daughter she needs to be perfect, be forthcoming, and extrovert (but know when to be introverted and how to balance that out), she needs to learn how to be a woman, a wife and a mother. As a young lady she needs to be classy, sexy and still someone you're mother would like. She needs to be able to hold a conversation and still learn how to stay silent so she doesn't shine brighter than you. She should know how to flirt, but dare she flirt. She's cold if she doesn't like your advances and a slut if she does. 

She should continue to look pretty even when she's had a rough day or is expected to age prettily or else you'd wander away, but dare she feel that you're beginning to look like a slob (wandering away is not even an option). 

We all like to think that the days when the girl child was considered a burden are behind us. But how many of us today would still prefer to have a boy child rather than a girl? Marriage is considered to be the epitome of her life, why I ask? Why are girls still a burden? All the girls that I know are strong, can fend for themselves and can look after their families with/without the support of a man. And still, all we are told repeatedly is that we are incomplete without a man. A woman has to be willing to leave everything she holds dear when she marries a man and then too, she isn't marrying just the man, she marries the man's entire family. Why then isn't she treated better? Why does she still play 2nd fiddle to everyone in her husbands life. Basically for a woman, it has got to be husband first, then her kid, hubby's family, then her family, then hubby's pals and only then her pals. For a man its his family, his kids, his friends and then his wife. 

99% of the men that'll read this will take offence and say to themselves or even comment, that I've got them wrong. To that I'll say this, some of you my darlings are definitely not cut out of the mold I describe, but the rest I dare you to prove me wrong.

This note is inspired by some crap a pal is going through. But mostly its stuff we girls go through our entire life anyways. I'm not particularly trying to place blames, but I am trying to understand why I have to be the strong, sacrificing and compromising one everytime. 

I AM A WOMAN AND I DESERVE BETTER!! I'M NOT WEAK BUT I DON'T WANT TO BE STRONG ALL THE TIME EITHER!